by: Amelia Rana
You’ve done it: the covert text during a one-on-one conversation, hoping your friend won’t notice. It’s normal, right? In this generation that learned how to use computers in Kindergarten and instant messenger in grade school, social media and cell phones are second nature. Who doesn’t use Facebook, Twitter and texting on a daily basis?
But what we consider harmless mediums of communication and entertainment might actually be causing us significant emotional isolation. We use these technologies in order to keep in touch, but does social media really make you more connected?
Sometimes, my time on Facebook ends with me sighing and thinking about how my friends go on more interesting vacations than I do, how they’re prettier or have more fun. Sometimes I go on Twitter or text a friend because I don’t have anything exciting to do, and I just want to see “What’s new”. And sometimes, I check Facebook because I don’t feel like doing my schoolwork or thinking about the fight I just had; I’d rather look at a random video about kittens on someone’s wall.
Does this sound familiar?
More and more, people are talking about loneliness, feeling disconnected and desiring community. I can’t help but wonder how much technology has contributed to our feeling this way. If you check your smart phone during dinner, text while with friends or stay home on Facebook instead of going out, you might be creating a virtual prison for yourself and missing out on the living, breathing people around you.
When loneliness begins to cloud, there are choices you can make to break down your walls. Consider your social media and technology usage. If you find you are isolating yourself, create healthy boundaries; for example, don’t use your cell phone when you’re with others, limit your time on Facebook or, if you’re up for a challenge, go two days without using your phone or computer. While these might sound impossible, they are powerful ways of connecting with those present in your life.
Prayer is an incredible remedy for loneliness, as God is waiting for you to relate to Him. He hears you when you speak and is ready to comfort you and journey through life with you.
If you’re lonely, it’s likely your friends are too. There are so many exciting and creative things you can do together: organize an outing, film a movie or host a themed-costume party.
Get involved in your Church, School or local sports team. Communities in North America offer many opportunities for classes, teams and involvement. Additionally, you can volunteer and help those who are hurting, lonely or in need, like a home for Seniors, hospitals, homeless shelters and animal shelters.
